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By Medhanit

Let me just start by saying that I love Ethiopian guys, for better or worse. So just keep this in mind while you read this response, it is born out of frustration by your postings. I was fascinated by entries in Yekolotemari's blog. I guess my response has been brewing since I was prompted to read Wegesha's entry about Abesha women a few months back. My friend sent it to a group of Ethiopian girls and we were stupefied, to say the least. Well, just like the saying, "be enkert lai joro degif", I recently read Choma's entry about his cooking. I guess that was the last straw that made me decide on writing a response. I won't be as eloquent as Wegesha (I have to say I have yet to see such a poetic description of shibet in the pubic area), but I believe an Ethiopian woman's prespective is overdue.

Where can I start? This is by no means a personal attack on any of  the writers but it just infuriates me when guys start talking about body parts. Yes, my fine ass is a part of me but there is a whole lot MORE than that. The sooner you realize that, the rewards are incomprehensible. I don't know what kind of Ethiopian women you've been dating to give us (Ethiopian women) a collective lack of sexual prowess. The way I see it, if any girl with the right mind chooses to sleep with you, she should make sure that she enjoys herself as much as you do. My motto is if you are to do something, don't half-ass it. Yes, I can make you feel like you are a few inches away from being the flowing lava of the Earth's core but in order to get there, there are two things you should consider. First, I want you to ask yourself what you are looking for. Is it a one night stand, booty call, (however you phrase it) or are you a bit more than that? You see, to a woman, that makes a world of difference. What you look for must match up with what I am looking for. I am still hoping that there is a guy out there who can appreciate my fine ass and at the same time connect with me.

The second thing is, yes, physical attraction plays a major role but you have to go a little deeper than that. If your criterion of picking a woman is purely physical and given the fact that there are many fine Ethiopian sister out there, you kind of have to narrow it down a bit more. Not to make this wondoch worefa only... there are women who shop for an educated man to support them. May be what you are encountering is these women and they are trying to be "modest" until they get you. As you know, in our culture, we try to pretend that sex does NOT exist (I actually think this is a major contributor to the HIV epidemic in our beloved country, but that's another topic), and good girls are not supposed to display overt sexuality. When they are shopping for a hubby, they don't want to appear overly sexual. It has always driven me crazy how we always talk about the insatiable sexual appetite of men as if they are a different species. Some sisters are not even surprised when their man's eyes wonders off to another woman. I say bull sh@%! Contributors to this myth are those brothers who proudly display a collection of Kama Sutra positions in their palm pilot and others who think bragging about their sexual activity/ size of their genitalia is a turn on... Player, please!!! If you want someone to admire you for that, you can buy a hooker that can fake it for what the money is worth.

Wegesha also mentioned changes abesha women go through when they come to the US....Hell yea, given the opportunity to work my ass off and achieve a state of financial independence, I am not going to be your "water fetcher". I did not spend considerable chunk of my life in school to be someone's cook. Don't get me wrong...I will cook for my man but not because it is my womanly duty, it is because he will do the same for me. That gets me to Choma's  entry. Brother, what century do you live in? You are bragging about ONE dinner you cooked for a girl, and you were offended by her watching football while you cook? Would it have been natural to have it the other way round? Does your frustration lie somewhere else? I know some guys wait for a quick pay off shortly after doing something good. You sound like those guys who go to Ethiopia to fetch a "traditional wife" who are bound to find out that the "traditional wife" is a dying species when the wives leave their sorry asses. What exactly blinds you from seeing that we are just like you guys? We too want sex. We too do NOT like slaving around the kitchen ( but since it is a necessity in most cases, we will do it anyway).

Just like your need to have the "kryptonite" taken out, I think the solution to my problem will be a hemispherectomy or, if that is too much, some type of selective ablative therapy to  delete the portion of male brain dedicated to penile size, modify the part that only thinks about booty and jiggle test to a normal level. While we're at it, transplant neurons that will populate these areas with parts that give males insight into genuine understanding of women.

This is just one opinion. So don't go bashing abesha women on my account.